I don’t think you determine what your purpose is, I think you discover what your purpose is. There’s a difference. This is all we’ve got, right here, right now. We don’t know how much we have left in the future, but we do know what we’ve got now. 95% of the people live their entire life and never live the way they want to live.
Do you know that the law of attraction is always working? It’s like the law of gravity. If I let this go, it’s going to go down.
It’s never going to go back up; it’s going to go down. – He’s widely regarded as one of the living masters and teachers of the law of attraction. For over 50 years, he’s transformed the lives of people through his books, seminars, and personal coaching.
He worked shoulder-to-shoulder with Earl Nightingale, in the 60s and 70s. He’s Bob Proctor, and here’s my take on his top 10 rules for success. Rule number five is my personal favorite, and make sure to stick around all through ’till the end for some special bonus clips. And as always, if Bob says something that really, really resonates with you, please leave it down in the comments below, and put quotes around it so other people can be inspired as well.
– I don’t think you determine what your purpose is, I think you discover what your purpose is. There’s a difference. Determining indicates deciding, and I don’t think you decide. I think, if you go about it the right way, you discover it. Like, there’s some people that should be painting all day; they’re great artists, like Michelangelo, who was obviously a great artist, a great sculptor.
I mean, that was his purpose in his life. Well, I believe my purpose is doing what I’m doing. Your purpose is why you get out of bed in the morning.
Do you know why you get up? Well, most people say, well it’s to go to work. Well that’d be a good reason to stay in bed.
You know, you say, well everybody’s playing online casinos. That’d be another reason to stay in bed, because there are a lot online casinos on the web. If you’re ever doing what everybody’s doing, you’re probably going in the wrong direction. Your purpose is your reason for living. What you want to do is sit down, and maybe, take a pen and a pad, and then ask yourself: what do I really love doing?
Now you may have to spend a while at this. You might get up an hour early every morning, and go sit under a tree somewhere, if you’re in a nice climate, or pick a favorite chair, some place where you’re not going to be disturbed, and totally relax, and say: if I could spend my life doing something, what do I really love doing? Now since you don’t ask yourself that question every day, it might take a while for the answer to come to the surface. But it comes to your consciousness, and it may take a while; you may have to do this every morning for three months.
But it would be well-invested, the time. How many times have you had somebody say to you: hey, have you got a minute, Bob? Have you got a minute?
They don’t want a minute. I want you to think about that. I read a poem one time, it said: I have only just a minute, only 60 seconds and it was forced upon me, I can’t refuse it. I didn’t seek it and I didn’t choose it, but it’s up to me to use it. I must suffer if I lose it, give account if I abuse it.
It’s only a tiny little minute, but eternity is in it. Well any rate, I thought, I’m going to put this on a video, and I’m just going to share it with everybody, just this one little part of the seminar I’m making. I want you to look at this sand timer, and let this, I want you to think about your life. The sand in the top of the glass represents the future. The sand in the bottom of the glass represents the past.
Now, do you know, we know what’s in the past, and yet, we can’t do anything about it. Do you know what the trick is? You don’t know how much sand’s in the top of the glass. You may think you have a lot, you might only have a little. Then again, you may think you have a little, and you might have a lot.
When I was a little boy, I was raised by my grandmother. And, I don’t know, when I was little, after, she was probably 60, but, as long as I could remember, grandma would say, I’ll soon be gone, dear, I’ll soon be gone. Well, you know, we loved her. She was really an angel of God, but we thought she was never going to go. She lived to be 94; for 30 some years: I’ll soon be gone.
She didn’t think she had much time left; she had 34 years left. Now, about the same time, I had a buddy of mine, Bob Yates, he was just 16, and bang, he run into the abutment of a bridge, and his life was snuffed out. If you had asked him a half hour before, how much sand he had left, he would’ve said at least a half a century. He didn’t have a half an hour.
See, the trick is, we don’t know how much sand we have left. The future, we don’t know. The past, it’s gone.
Now, the only thing you can deal with is what’s right here, right now. And if you look, the sand is always moving. Now think of this: you see, I was working on that, and then, I was working on a graph I’ve got here on my computer, and I’m thinking of the time somebody said hey, have you got a minute? Well they don’t really want a minute.
Do you know, if you’re earning $50,000 a year, a minute’s 42 cents? A half hour is $12.50. If we take that ahead a bit, if you’re earning $80,000 a year, a minute’s 67 cents. Half hour is $20. If you’re earning $150,000 a year, you got a minute? (laughing) It costs you $1.25 a minute, and a half hour is $37.50.
So do you see, if somebody said: do you want to stop for a cup of coffee? Well, if you’re earning a quarter of a million dollars a year, a minute is $2.08, half hour is $62.50. And then of course, you’ve got the coffee to pay for, on top of that. So you see, the point is this: this is all we’ve got, right here, right now.
We don’t know how much we have left in the future, but we do know what we’ve got now, and I have found that people that win are the people who make up their mind; they’re not going to waste the minutes. They’re going to be productive; they’re going to make it happen, every minute. Success was the progressive realization of a worthy ideal. Anyone that has a goal, and they’re moving towards it, they’re successful.
Most people think that your successful if you have a lot of money; quite often, you have a lot of money if you’re successful, but it isn’t, I wouldn’t say Mother Teresa has a lot of money, you know, but she’s a pretty successful lady. So it’s– – You said that barrier to success– – Well there’s a couple of them. I think there’s two barriers. One is our conditioning; the conditioning that takes place in our subconscious mind, from the time we’re infants: all we can do is act and talk like the people around us. That’s why we learned the language we learned. If there was 10 languages spoken in our home, we’d learn 10 languages, without any trouble.
There’s usually one, and that’s the only one we ever learn, and we grow older and we think, oh, I couldn’t learn another language. We could learn 100 if we wanted to, you can do anything, but I think we’re conditioned. We have a real strong conditioning, usually, with not some very good ideas. And then, that’s the barrier that’s inside us.
The one that’s outside of us is our environment. We have a tendency to act like everybody around us, and if you think about this, it doesn’t make a lot of sense, because, if you study statistics, 95% of the people live their entire life, and never live the way they want to live. Do you know that 95% of the population, in this country, let’s say in North America, the richest continent in the history of the world, they’ll work productively, let’s say for 40 of their 65 years, and they’ll end up with hardly any money. There’s got to be something wrong. Five percent of the people end up financially comfortable or independent. – Are you trying to depress us, Bob?
Because that’s– – No, actually, I think it’s quite an exciting idea, because you see, the idea behind it is that anybody can win. Anyone at all. But if we start studying these statistics, I think we’ll arrive at the conclusion, geez, I better start thinking for myself rather than follow everybody. Most people, they get a job, they look around, you see how everybody else is doing their work, and they start doing it the same way. They should stop and think: I wonder if any of these people know what they’re doing?
You know, is there a better way to do it? – Don’t we have a need to fit in? I mean, we don’t want to stand out, we don’t want to get fired, we don’t want to make waves. – Exactly. Exactly, just fall into line, you know, take a number, be like everybody around. You know, that’d be great in the animal kingdom, but human beings aren’t supposed to live that way.
I think we should make a few waves. We should maybe stand out, be different, not for the sake of being different, but because we are different. We all think different thoughts, and I believe we should start to think, and build images in our mind, of what we’d like to do, and then set out and do it. Emerson did that, Edison did that, Marconi did that, Samuel Morse did that, Buckminster Fuller did that, we could go on, and on, and on. They were different, they stood out, they made a few waves. You should seek failures.
See, if you’re playing it safe, you’re not going to win. If you’re playing it safe, like that old saying, you know, you were taught when you were a little girl: better to be safe than sorry. Well that’s a bunch of crap. It’s not better to be safe than sorry. It’s by trying things that you figure out how far you can go. You got to get outside the box.
Like it’s reported, Edison tried 3,000 ways before he built the incandescent light. He said, he didn’t fail 3,000 times, he said there was 3,000 different steps to building a light bulb. Well there’s different steps to get to where you’re going. And I really do treat winning and losing exactly the same; I do not let it upset me.
– Do you think that’s a big part of why you’re so successful? – Well, it’s part of why I enjoy it. Yeah, I think it is, ’cause I try anything. If I’m into an idea, the idea of losing never enters my mind.
See, I have worked with giants. I had the good fortune of working with Sir Edmund Hillary. He was the first man to stand on top of the world, and I worked with him on three different occasions, and the only difference in Ed Hillary and Bob Proctor is in his size. Now, he’s gone now, but he was a big man.
When he shook hands with me, his hand wrapped right around mine; I felt like a dwarf. You know, and, in talking to him, like it never entered his mind he wouldn’t get to the top of the mountain, but he failed in 1951, he failed in 1952, and it wasn’t until 1953 that he got to the top of the mountain. You know, people had died for centuries, trying to do that. He said, I know if I could see it in here, I could hold it out here. Stella Mann wrote that in a book: you can see it in your head, you can hold it in your hand.
And that’s right. And if you’re not prepared to lose, you’re never going to win, ’cause you’re always playing it safe. There’s no reward in that. Look at these two men.
Do you know who they are? Most people don’t. They’re just a couple of ordinary guys.
One, they’re both gone now, but one was an ordinary beekeeper in Auckland, New Zealand, and the other, a Sherpa guide, from over around Nepal. Now there’s Mt. Everest. Do you know, for thousands of years, people had tried to get to the top of Mt.
Everest? People died doing it. It was believed it couldn’t be done.
People tried, but they didn’t know how, and so they quit. There’s a closer look at the mountain, and where they placed their flag. They planted that flag in the mountain. Now, this is the two of them, after they’d come down the mountain. And, do you know something?
When they started, they did not know how. They didn’t know how to get to the top of the mountain, and that’s what stops most people, because they don’t know how. As little kids, we’d go, mommy, daddy, I want this, and they’d say, now how are you going to do that? Well, as a little kid, you don’t know how to do it, but they did it.
In 1953, on the 29th of May, they were the first two to get to the top of that mountain. They stood right at the top of the world. Do you know there’s been over 1,000 people do it since then? I watched a young woman, on Canadian television, being interviewed, not very big, she’d just come back from going to the top of Mt. Everest. And the reporter asked her, they said: how does it feel now that you’ve conquered the mountain?
She, we didn’t conquer the mountain; that mountain can’t be conquered. We conquered the limitations that are within ourselves. Select a person who is already doing something that you’d like to do; get to know that person. Go to the experts for advice. Don’t ask the person next door, or your mother, father, or brother, or the guy that works beside you, because they don’t necessarily know.
There’s no point in asking a person how to earn a lot of money, if they’re only earning $10,000 a year. They don’t know. If they knew, they’d probably be earning a lot.
It’s like, don’t go to a sick doctor if you want to get healthy. So, you find someone that you can go to for advice, get a real good book, and lock into that book and start studying. I’ve had this one that looks like a Bible, you know. But this is Napoleon Hill’s book, Think and Grow Rich.
I’ve been reading this thing now for 23 years. I’ll probably read it for another 23 years. I’ll get another good book that I brought over here today. It’s called The Power of Your Subconscious Mind.
Now, I’m not getting a commission for selling this, the author’s dead now, he’s been gone for a couple of years, but Dr. Joseph Murphy wrote this book, The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, and that’s probably one of the best books that you’re ever going to find, because you’re going to learn something about your mind, when you read this book. Now I read a lot of books; I’ve got probably 1,000 books sitting in my den at home, in my library, but the one that I carry, I carry it everywhere I go, and I read it all the time, is, “Think and Grow Rich”, and I never stop reading it. – Now, where’s the value for you to re-read that, and read it again? You must know it well enough that– – I think I could probably recite it verbatim, but the secret is, I once read in a book where it said, when you read a good book through the second time, you don’t see something in it that you didn’t see before, you see something in yourself that wasn’t there before. You see, when I read this, I create a greater awareness. You know, many years ago, I read a book by Terry Cole-Whittaker, it was a classic: “What You Think of Me is None of My Business”.
Think of the amount of time that is wasted on negative energy, wondering what other people think of you. What they think of you really doesn’t make any difference; it’s what you think of you that makes a difference. So, as you go through the day, don’t worry about what other people think of you. Just say, I’m alright. I’m God’s highest form of creation.
See this line? That’s called the terror barrier. Yeah, jumping at you, isn’t it? And on the other side of the terror barrier is something we call freedom.
And you know, very few people get through that terror barrier. It’s rather sad. Freedom is available to everyone. There isn’t anyone that can not live they way they want to live.
Why don’t they? Why don’t they? They don’t know, and they don’t even know they don’t know. Now I’m going to show you why people experience buyer’s remorse when they buy something they really want, and then they back away, or they go to move and they don’t, they go to change jobs and they don’t, they go to move to another city and they don’t. Why? Fear causes them to stay where they are.
Here’s the individual; the x represents the unknown factor, the paradigm. Now, there’s a power flowing into this individual’s mind, and they can make anything out of it they want. Remember, we said we had the ability to choose? What did they choose? They choose thoughts that are in harmony with the paradigm.